How the #SocialSexRevolution is Saving the Internet

By MakeLoveNotPornstar and Ambassador, Goddess Erica

A year ago, I had never edited a video before. To be fair, I also had never shared intimate details of my sex life with complete strangers, either.

This time last year, one of the most important tools in how I pursue my calling didn’t even exist to me yet.

It’s wild how much can change in a year.

Let me introduce myself. I am Goddess Erica, and I am a Sexuality Empowerment Coach, Orgasmic Birth Doula, MLNPornstar and Brand Ambassador. In my private life, I practice BDSM as a Tantric Dominatrix. My job in any of these spaces is to educate and guide others towards sexual empowerment.

Sexual self-acceptance is, in my opinion, the hardest kind of acceptance to come by.

My calling is to reveal the connection between kink, birth-work and spirituality to help make the world a more sex-positive place. Which — let me tell you — is incredibly hard to do when every digital platform is either sex-negative, caters to toxic-masculinity or both. And that’s without even mentioning ageism, body-shaming, racism and ableism.

On Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, conversations about sex (including those focused on education and awareness) can only be had in coded words, lest we risk content deletion and de-platforming. On adult sites, the vast majority of content is directed by cis heterosexual men and performed by actors. This lack of diversification in the porn industry creates a largely accepted, but wildly inaccurate blueprint of what real sex looks like.

Where, then, do we find safe, social spaces to talk about the experiences that most of us have, and for which none of us would be here without? In a pandemic, where do consenting adults share what they’re enjoying at home, when what they enjoy doesn’t (usually) involve baking bread?

MakeLoveNotPorn is a rare sexy oasis in a virtual desert of shame, guilt and judgement.

It is unequivocally the best kept secret on the internet, and I fear the only reason more people aren’t talking about it is because censorship for the sake of “community” is actively disconnecting us from ours.

We’ve all been miseducated about sex because we live on a planet comprised almost entirely of sex-negative cultures. This knowledge gap keeps us from the power that lies in consciously embracing ourselves and our sexualities. Between you and me, I suspect sex-negativity is holding us back as a species.

The existence of MLNP is proof, however, that the #SexPositivity movement and #SocialSexRevolution are rising tides. When you become a member of MakeLoveNotPorn, you are joining a growing community of adults passionate about watching (and sharing!) ethical, inclusive, female-pleasure prioritized sex. These are REAL people sharing glimpses into their real lives.

As a MakeLoveNotPornstar myself, I can confidently say, sharing these glimpses is as much for our pleasure as it is for those watching. We WANT to show off the amazing sex we’re having. We want to encapsulate and immortalize our most breathtaking, connected moments with our partners and ourselves. In a world where negativity, violence and pain are treated as “normal” and safe to view with few restrictions, we instead want to share our joy. #TeamExhibitionism

As a sex educator, MakeLoveNotPorn offers a welcoming, sex-positive space for me to demonstrate the Tantric, BDSM and mindfulness concepts that inform my work as a coach and Doula.

And personally, as a woman who’s enjoyed mainstream porn for much of my adult life, I’ve never, until now, felt safe to participate as anything more than a voyeur. Adult sites are simply not designed to embrace women’s perspectives on pleasure or Black women’s perspectives on, well… anything.

Tell me, where have you ever seen a Black Tantric Dominatrix lovingly giggle with her partner one moment, command him not to cum in another, and lose herself in his gaze in yet another? For years, I hadn’t found it anywhere.

But now it exists on MakeLoveNotPorn. That’s revolutionary.

A year ago, I’d never heard of MakeLoveNotPorn. Which is a shame, considering they’re at the forefront of the sex-positivity revolution. A year from now, this rising tide of a movement will be even harder to ignore. Which is great, because the views are quite nice.

Join Goddess Erica in saving the internet and become an MLNP member today!